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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

suddenly single w/4 kids.....

yeah you read that right....single with 4 kids.....LOL dh is gone yet again this week....and I have to honestly say....it truly sucks being a single parent....even if it is just for a week and not permanent. Can you say.....NO EARS!!! I swear as soon as their father leaves...their ears go with him out the door!!! I do not know how many times in the past 2 days I have said things over and over and over again to them......it gets OLD real fast!!!

I am not the push over one either....LOL you would think they would know that by now!! so fine, you don't want to listen...well, no computer time, no girl scouts this week, and bed time is earlier!!! "what, why, your so mean!! if dad was here he would.........." he would what? let you get away with everything?!? well guess what your dad is not here *I* am!! LOL the looks on their faces is quite priceless.....yeah mean mom is here!!!

I often wonder if the way I parent is bad.....kwim.....am I doing the right thing by grounding them restricting their activities if they do not pull the grades *we* expect vs the schools lame C average thing....I question myself like any other normal parent does...but....then I look at my College girl and think....yeah we did good!!! we did something right, because no matter how much we grounded her restricted her activities for purely stupid ass reasons (in her eyes) she is doing quite well on her own, taking her studying seriously, and doing a find job!!!

so in the end....if I get the "I hate you mom. or the your so mean mom" I can smile and know....that someday...they will understand...and appreciate that even though there were consequences to their actions, that *I* did do what was best for them.....because I can now reap the benefits of that from the 18 year old....

3 comments:

Minxy Mimi said...

You are doing a good job Wendi! Being too lenient never helped a child, IMHO... I think you need to teach the rest of us a few things!

tcalamity said...

Single mums with 4 kids is a hard job hun, I know I do it my OH is in scotland this week which leaves me at home with 13,12,5 and 1 yr old all girls, strops and tantrums, not to mention a house full of buulders re-doing kitchen and bathroom. I am very strict to a degree, my kids dont get away with anything but of course dad is the fun side.Didnt do me any harm certainly will not do our kids any harm.
xxxxxx
t

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