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Friday, December 19, 2008

Large Families

my friend Mimi over at Minxy Mimi unplugged recently did a post about the Duggars, and their 18th child.....http://mimxymimiunplugged.blogspot.com/2008/12/how-do-you-feel-about-duggar-family.html

and it got me going on the defensive......LOL who me? on the defensive!?!?! unheard of right!! Well, because I have 5 kids, I have often been told that I am over populating the earth, and contributing to its downfall....and that my kids could not possibly feel loved by me and my dh because there are so many of them....

I have to literally Laugh My Ass Off because, nothing could be further from the truth!! sure we have a large family of 7, and at time it can get hard...but you know what we make it thru all the rough times and we are stronger for it!! In this economy right now, I am sure there are a lot of you out there that are struggling financially with just one or two kids to worry about....so what is the difference? there really is not a difference imo.....you worry about all of them just the same! you worry about ALL of your children all of the time, just like those of you with 2 worry about your two, well I just have 3 more to worry about....its not a burden, or a headache

I happened to get pregnant 5 times...and YES I have heard of birth control.....thank you...have you ever heard of 99% effective?!? well that percentage that is there that it is not ALWAYS effective....well *I* am that percentage that can and DOES get pg on the pill!!! 2 of the 5 were not planned, and we were not planning on being pg, but it happened, and there was NOTHING we could do to change it ( I don't do abortions) so....we have 5 wonderful, well rounded children, that if you did ask them, life in our family is not so bad!!! we do the family game nights, movie nights, we play video games as a family....hell I know many families out there that have just 2 kids and the don't do half of the stuff we do as a family!! in fact my kids tell me that their friends are jealous when we talk about game nights and movie nights at school!! LOL

So if there is the perception out there that with having a large family there is no way to have some one on one time with the kids...well...yes there is and my family is living proof of that!

9 comments:

HeatherL said...

I am giving you a standing ovation right now at my kitchen table. I'm getting funny looks from the dog, but I don't care. Well said. I only have two children so far, and I've "heard of birth control" too, and for my own reasons choose not to use most forms of it. The question, "Have you ever heard of birth control" infuriates me. It makes me want to forget my good "southern girl" manners and all sense of decency (not to mention Christian love) and slug someone right in the face. It's so rude. errr! Thanks Wendi! Now I'm mad! jk, kinda!!

Jess @ NBP said...

Wonderfully said Wendi. :)

Minxy Mimi said...

I hear ya Wendi.. I think when you have two loving and caring parents its a wonderful thing, I guess the thing about the Duggars that bothers me is that the oldest kids are basically acting in a parents role to the younger at times... because there is a huge difference between 5 and 18! There is absolutly no way I could have 18 kids and have enough time and attention to give to each and every one of them.

For people to get on your case for 5 kids, is IMHO rude. 5 is a perfectly manageable (for you, not me...LOL) amount of kids!

Toni said...

You have said it perfectly wendi. I agree with pretty much all your points and here are my thoughts on the duggars:

They have a bunch of commercial properties, they are 100% debt free so I have to hand it to them, even if they have a freakishly large family, others have done it I am sure , I have heard grandparents of people saying they were 17 of 23 children and not everyone can do that and still be debt free. While yes they weird me out I do have a little admiration for them, heck we only have 3 and are far from debt free. I am in awe they can do that. It's actually quite amazing. However I do think she needs to heed the dr's advice and stop or she will end up leaving her family without a mother. They are right her in the town next to me

tcalamity said...

well said, I have 4 children and we are a family of six, and yes its really tough in todays current climate.But we have a lovely close family.

Just wishing you a wonderful christmas and happy new year and another year of blogging.
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Karyn with a Y said...

I believe in the world today you are considered to have a large family. Heck, people with 3 kids are considered "large families" now. However, I feel that 5 kids isn't the same as 18, IMO. I had a hard time naming two I can't imagine coming up with 18 names! And we all know you are a supermom and love each child with your everything!

~~gail~~mooselovingmamabear said...

I hear you and am with you 100%...I got soooooo tired of hearing "are they all yours"... Great thoughts...TFS

Moriah said...

Bow down to you my lady! Very well written, and I too get the "birth control" comments, or "Are you done?" like if I wasn't I would be crazy to have more. Great response Wendi.

tcalamity said...

Happy new year to you.I hope 2009 is a good one for you.
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